top of page
Logo Put It Down Lifestyle The 25 Days program helps you get your relationship with alcohol exactly where you want it in your life without judgment or shame.

FOMO v JOMO

Who's heard of FOMO!? The acronym FOMO (Fear of Missing Out is used a lot by people, but I have heard it way more often around women (like me) who are trying to quit alcohol. Here's how it always seemed to go: In the beginning, you’re thinking, "Everybody’s getting to drink, and I don’t. I'm afraid I'm gonna miss out!" I realized that "missing out" was what I was doing when I drank. That is a really big realization. So, how did I get there?


Well, I started asking myself: Sheri, what are you really missing out on?


A woman scratching her head looking confused


You’re missing out on forgetting what happened last night.


That’s good!







A crying woman in curlers with smeared makeup holding a wine bottle.


You’re missing out on slurring your words, repeating stories over and over, forgetting what you were saying, drunk texting, driving under the influence, and making an ass out of yourself.



That’s good!


A hungover dog wearing sunglasses & a tie holding an empty champagne bottle & glass.




You’re missing out on the hangovers.



That’s so good!






A wide-eyed woman, hands over her mouth, in front of chalkboard with devil and angel on either side on chalkboard behind her

You're missing out on the mental tug of war, debating, and bargaining with yourself, and decision fatigue. Should I have one (or two or ten) drinks? I'll only drink on the weekends. I'll drink a glass of water between drinks (which I could never stick to). Ugh, it's exhausting.


That's good!

A woman at a party dancing on a table holding a drink while others watch.





You're missing out on losing your inhibitions.



That's really good!




A sad-eyed lethargic dog


You're missing out on drinking empty calories (not to mention the stress you're putting on your body while it tries to process the alcohol), carrying extra weight, feeling puffy all the time, and compromising or even skipping workouts because you're hungover.


That's good!


Frustrated looking man and woman sitting back to back on a couch




You’re missing out on silly fights with your significant other.


That’s really, really good!





A woman in a sparkly dress and heels face down with legs on the couch and face on the floor




You’re missing out on waking up at 3 AM with cotton mouth and being unable to get back to sleep.


That’s great!








YOU REMEMBER SPENDING QUALITY TIME WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS!

A group of families enjoying a fire roasting marshmallows.

THAT'S PRICELESS!


It’s funny how we think we’re missing out by not drinking. After I answered the question, "What am I missing out on," there was no doubt in my mind; it was definitely the opposite. So if you are a little curious about what life is like without alcohol but have been afflicted by FOMO, here are a few things to consider.


Take a Step Back

When you step away from drinking alcohol, you give yourself time to debunk all the myths and beliefs instilled in your head by media, friends, family, and an alcohol-centered society.


When you put the booze down for a period of time, you free your mind to discover strategies that deprogram those thoughts that kept you drinking. Instead of alcohol being the center of attention, you can choose to do healthier things like self-care, learning something new, or exercising. Doing this lets you focus on what is really important in your life. And suddenly, you find true freedom -- that's where you find your JOMO, the Joy of Missing Out!


Give Yourself Some Time

The freedom of JOMO begins when you realize you never needed alcohol to do any of the things you thought you did. You can have fun and BE fun at social gatherings and even on vacation without alcohol! You can deal with your problems and relax in the evenings without booze! Embracing the joy of missing out means finding contentment in not always being part of everything, which allows you to find confidence, self-worth, authenticity, and deeper connections. It's a gradual process. Be patient. It takes time to get there, but trust me; you will.


Breaking the Cycle

Saying no to booze simplifies your life, decluttering and sparking joy, which can break the FOMO cycle. This creates space for genuine connections and personal growth. When you value yourself, accept your imperfections, and practice being grateful, you nurture JOMO by shifting your focus to the good things in your life and diminishing the fear of missing out. There's no more deprivation! Just the joy of missing out on all the consequences of ingesting a toxic substance.

Woman hiking with backpack jumping for joy

Turn it Around

So when you start to feel the FOMO creeping in, stop yourself. Take a deep breath and flip those thoughts around. Think of all the things that you're gaining by not drinking. That's your JOMO. Once you start down this path, the appeal of alcohol will lose its power over you. You’ll be able to enjoy life without feeling like you're missing out.


168 views2 comments

Recent Posts

See All

2 comentarios


Invitado
13 jun 2023

Great post Sherri!

Me gusta

amysriley1
08 jun 2023

I could not love this more!! ❤

Thank you so much for sharing this Sherri❤️

Me gusta
group-guides-dark-background-NEW-NEW.jpg
bottom of page