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How to Fall Asleep Sober

Updated: May 11

Sleep is a vital aspect of our overall well-being, yet many newly-sober ladies struggle to achieve a restful night's sleep without resorting to alcohol. The good news is that several effective and natural methods can help you fall asleep peacefully, sober, and wake up refreshed.

In this blog post, we will explore various methods to help you drift off without needing a drink. We’ll highlight the power of meditation, breathwork, yoga, nature, and other soothing practices. So let's dive in and uncover the secrets to getting a good night's sleep without relying on alcohol.

Finding Inner Peace: Exploring Grounding Meditation and the Space Between Breaths

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One of the most powerful tools for promoting relaxation and calming the mind is meditation. By focusing your attention on the present moment, meditation helps to quiet racing thoughts and reduce stress levels.

54321 Grounding Technique

The 54321 grounding technique is a simple yet powerful way to guide you back to reality and the present moment. It can help calm you down when you're feeling anxious.

  • Bring Your Awareness to Your Surroundings: Take a few deep breaths to bring your body and your mind back to the present. Be mindful of where you are and what is around you.

  • Identify 5 Things You Can See: Take note of the books on the bookshelf, the lamp in the corner, or the cell phone on your desk. Name each item. Take your time to really immerse yourself in your surroundings and SEE what's right in front of you.

  • Acknowledge 4 Things You Can Touch: Perhaps as you are outside, you can touch the trunk of a tree or feel a smooth blade of grass. Notice how your clothes feel on your body. You might even notice how the ground feels beneath you.

  • Notice 3 Things You Can Hear: Can you hear birds, a clock ticking, or church bells? Simply listen. No need to judge the sound. Just acknowledge it.

  • Observe 2 Things You Can Smell: Freshly mowed grass or the smell of dinner cooking or baking cookies. Take your time and let your nose find the scents.

  • Become Aware of 1 Thing You Can Taste: Maybe toothpaste, coffee, or the last thing you ate.

Take your time and repeat this as many times as you need to. Remember how you feel after you've grounded yourself with these thoughts and observations. If you prefer a guided meditation, you can download a free guided 54321 grounding meditation from our Free Resources Page.

Space Between Breaths Meditation

  • Find a Quiet Space: Set aside a few minutes each night to sit or lie down comfortably, relax your shoulders, close your eyes, and bring your attention to your breath.

  • Focus on Your Breath: Direct your attention to the natural rhythm of your breath. Observe the inhalation and exhalation, noticing the subtle sensations and movements associated with each breath. Be fully present in the experience.

  • Embrace the Pause: As you become attuned to your breath, pay close attention to the transition between inhalation and exhalation. Notice the momentary pause, the stillness that arises. Rest your awareness within this space.

  • Cultivate Mindfulness: Use this space between breaths as an anchor for mindfulness. As thoughts arise, observe and acknowledge them without getting caught up in them and without any judgment. Imagine each thought as a passing cloud in the sky, name the thought with one or two words, and then let it gently drift away as you bring your focus back to the breath and the space within.

As you inhale and exhale, allow any tension to melt away, gradually inducing a state of relaxation that prepares your body and mind for sleep. Engaging in regular meditation practice before bedtime can help alleviate anxiety and promote relaxation, leading to better sleep quality.

Breathing Techniques: Harnessing the Power of Breath

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Mastering specific breathing techniques can be a game-changer when it comes to falling asleep sober.

4-7-8 Technique

The 4-7-8 technique involves inhaling deeply for a count of four, holding the breath for a count of seven, and exhaling slowly for a count of eight.

Box Breathing

Place your hand on your belly and inhale slowly to a count of four, feeling your belly gently expand. Hold your breath for four counts and intentionally tense every muscle in your body. Exhale slowly for four counts and allow all your muscles to relax completely. Hold the exhale for four counts to complete the box.

Belly Breathing

Place one hand on your chest and the other hand on your belly. Take a deep breath in through your nose, filling your belly with air. Exhale slowly, allowing the hand on your belly to gradually fall as you release the breath. Count each breath.

These techniques can help regulate the body's stress response and encourage a tranquil state conducive to sleep without any drugs or alcohol.

Yoga & Stretching: Unwinding the Body and Mind

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Engaging in gentle yoga or stretching exercises can help release physical tension and prepare your body for alcohol-free sleep. Focus on poses that promote relaxation, such as Standing Forward Bend (Uttanasana), Supine Spinal Twist (Supta Matsyendrasana), Legs-Up-The-Wall Pose (Viparita Karani), Child's Pose (Balasana), Reclining Bound Angle Pose (Supta Baddha Konasana), and Corpse Pose (Savasana). Remember to listen to your body and adjust the poses as needed. Hold each pose for several breaths and allow yourself to fully relax. Creating a soothing atmosphere with dim lighting and calming music can further enhance your bedtime yoga routine. The combination of stretching and mindful movement helps to alleviate physical discomfort and relax the nervous system, paving the way for a more peaceful sober slumber.

Nature Walk: Reconnecting with the Outdoors

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Spending time in nature has a profound impact on your well-being, including your sleep quality. Taking a leisurely walk in a natural setting can be incredibly soothing for the mind and body. Immerse yourself in the sights, smells, and sounds of your surroundings. Fresh air, the sound of birdsong, and the beauty of the natural world keep you grounded. It can also help regulate your body's internal clock, reduce anxiety, and improve overall sleep patterns. The connection with nature provides a calming effect, making it easier to unwind and fall asleep naturally.

Digital Detox: Switching Off for Sleep

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The blue light emitted by electronic devices can disrupt your natural sleep patterns. Create a screen-free zone in your bedroom by turning off screens, such as smartphones, tablets, and laptops, at least an hour before bed. Instead, engage in activities that promote relaxation, such as reading a book, listening to calming music, or practicing a nighttime skincare routine (something that’s often forgotten when we’re drinking alcohol). Creating a technology-free routine before sleep enhances melatonin production and improves sleep quality without relying on a drink.

Herbal Remedies: Nurturing with Nature

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Sipping on a warm cup of herbal tea can be a soothing prelude to sleep (and it’s so much healthier for you than booze!). Look for herbal blends that contain chamomile, lavender, valerian root, lemon balm, magnolia bark, or passionflower, as these ingredients have calming properties that help relax the mind and prepare the body for sleep. Remember to avoid caffeine and opt for caffeine-free options instead.

Warm Bath: Creating a Peaceful Escape

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Indulging in a warm bath before bedtime is a wonderful way to unwind and prepare your body for blissful sober sleep. Create a tranquil spa-like ambiance by adjusting the lighting to a soft glow, illuminating the space with flickering candles, and filling the air with soothing music.

A warm bath raises your body temperature, and when you step out of the bath, your body temperature begins to drop. This drop in temperature signals to your body that it’s time to sleep and can promote deeper sleep. Adding a few drops of lavender or chamomile essential oil to the bathwater can further enhance its relaxing effects. The warm water helps to relax tense muscles while the aromatherapy calms the mind, making it easier to drift into a deep liquor-free slumber.


Falling asleep sober and achieving restful nights without relying on alcohol or other sleep aids is possible by adopting natural techniques. Sleep is essential to our physical, mental, and emotional well-being. By incorporating these natural methods into your evening routine, you can create a peaceful and inviting atmosphere that encourages deep relaxation and restorative sleep. From meditation and breathing techniques to yoga, nature walks, and the power of herbal teas and essential oils, there are countless ways to cultivate a bedtime routine that promotes restful sleep without the need for alcohol.

Remember, it's essential to listen to your body, experiment with different methods, and find the combination that works best for you. If you've been using alcohol as a sleep aid for many years, it may take your body a while to adjust to your new nighttime regimen. Be patient. Embrace the power of these practices, and let them guide you towards a well-deserved and rejuvenating slumber naturally without the booze. Sweet dreams await!


It’s important to note that individual responses may vary, and while all of these techniques for falling asleep sober can be beneficial for sleep, they may not work for everyone. If you have any specific medical conditions or concerns, it's always a good idea to consult with a healthcare professional for personalized advice. Experiment with incorporating one or two of these techniques into your alcohol-free evening routine and observe how it affects your sleep.




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